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  • What Contributes to Low Self-Esteem? (Part 3)

      We completed three factors: #1    Dysfunction Family Upbringing #2   Unrealized Self-Expectations #3   Underperforming Significant Others’ Expectations   This week, we will discuss three other factors #4   Failing to Recover from Bad Past Experiences #5   Failure to Fulfill our Dreams and Aspirations #6    Failure to Recover from Devastating Failures or Tragedies If you have any other factors, please feel free to...

  • What Contributes to Low Self-Esteem? (Part 2)

    We started with the first two factors: #1    Dysfunction Family Upbringing #2   Unrealized Self-Expectations   This week, we deal with the third factor: #3   Underperforming Significant Others’ Expectations     Factor #3    Underperforming Significant Others’ Expectations   “Frequent failures will deflate our egos.” John Ng   Bosses and managers do have expectations for us at work. There are […...

  • Low Self-Esteem Leaders Can Kill Teams… The Eight Symptoms(Part 3)

      This is a three part series. Click here to read Part 1 and Part 2 of the series.   I covered six of the eight symptoms in the previous articles. Here, I continue to dig deeper into the two remaining symptoms and include some personal reflection.   Divide and conquer – They take sides […]...

  • Low Self-Esteem Leaders Can Kill Teams… The Eight Symptoms(Part 2)

          In the previous article, I highlighted three symptoms of leaders with low self-esteem and the actions they take. I delve into three other symptoms in this article, and will deal with more in the coming article.   Suppressing peers who are better – They sabotage plans   Leaders with low self-esteem are […]...

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    Low Self-Esteem Leaders Can Kill Teams… The Eight Symptoms(Part 1)

      “It’s hard for employees to believe in their leaders if their leaders don’t believe in themselves. When a leader lacks trust in THEMSELVES employees can feel like the lack of trust is in THEM.” Margarita Tartakovsky   One key factor why teams fail is because of the low self-esteem of their leaders. It is difficult […]...

  • Reinventing Ourselves as Seniors…How to stay relevant?

        Over the years, I have seen seniors flourish and perish. Like the old adage says: ‘Old soldiers never die, they simply fade away’. There are a number of lessons I have learnt as I grow older. These lessons help me stay real, relevant and relational.   Re-Purpose and Re-define Yourself   “Our purpose […]...

  • How can seniors overcome setbacks in life… The Story Of Matsushita

    “Youth is not a time of your life. It is a state of mind’ Samuel Ullman    ____________________________ Konosuke Matsushita (I894- I989)   One of the most amazing seniors in history is Konosuke Matsushita. Inspite of all the setbacks in his life, he has the incredible ability and perseverance to restart and rebound from his […]...

  • Why Respect is Important in Asian Conflict Management

    “Respect is a lost art among younger leaders in conflict management.” John Ng   One of my most ardent readers of Dr. John’s Leads, Stephen Yong, feels that my articles on how Asians tend to manage conflict is often slanted negatively. He challenges me to give a more positive spin on some Asian aspects of […]...

  • When Avoiding Conflict is Unhealthy…

    “Avoidance becomes unhealthy when it becomes a patterned behavior and norm.” John Ng   Avoidance becomes unhealthy when it becomes a patterned behavior and norm. We use it inappropriately in most conflicts. Avoidance also can have a boomerang effect on the avoider. Studies have shown that frequent avoidance of conflict tends to result in health […]...

  • Ten Reasons Why Asians Avoid Conflict (Part Three)

    ‘Avoidance breeds avoidance, which then becomes a perpetual habit of conflict aversion.’   In our last article, we have discussed the subject of why Asians tend to avoid conflict.  These are some more reasons why people tend to avoid conflict.   Fear of Consequences – The ‘Heads Will Roll’ Stance The fear of consequences has […]...

  • Ten Reasons Why Asians Avoid Conflict (Part Two)

    In our last article, we have discussed the subject of why Asians tend to avoid conflict.  These are some more reasons why people tend to avoid conflict.   The Power Distance Gap – The Wai  and Yes hierarchy factor In Thailand, there are certain social etiquettes in wai (The Thai way of greeting with two hands […]...

  • Why I am passionate about Peace-Making?

      “In conflict management, I am an expert outside but a novice at home!” John Ng   Our lives are ensnared with conflicts. Everyone knows conflict is inevitable and it is almost an everyday affair.   Have you met employees who seem so agreeable at meetings but are unable to deliver on deadlines and are […]...

  • 7 Sure Ways to Succeed in Changing Yourself

    Have you ever wondered why very few people succeed in their effort to change? Or do you know why you are not able to make your change permanent? Here are the 7 fundamental elements you can do sustain your change and performance....

  • How Fear Can Overwhelm And Derail You

    We are living in troubling times. Four out of ten Singaporeans cited ‘losing their jobs’ as their top fear in times of recession. In the US, ‘being unable to pay their mortgage or rent’ was Americans’ greatest fear. ...

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